Toxic masculinity. They are inculcated from birth with the notion that they are/must be in control, and that Things Happen because they make them happen.
Nothing in this world requires your permission or understanding to exist.
I don't entirely get them either. It must have something to do with them being convinced that proximity/appeasement will save them. If they haven't seen the error of that logic by now, I don't know what to tell them.
It must have something to do with them being convinced that proximity/appeasement will save them.
It's co-dependency, like the mother telling her kids 'not to bother your father, he's had a long day' when he's drunk and prone to beating them and her.
It's one of the things that drives me nuts about the Democrats: the endless Scoot-to-the-Reich. We're in the endgame, now, with the choice between a nominal democracy and an authoritarian state obsessed with women's yayas, pronouns, and immigrants.
Tennant said his sentiment comes from simply βwanting people to be allowed to existβ and accepting that βways of expressing gender identity [and] sexuality are more nuanced than they once wereβ, adding: βIf that helps people to know who they are, say who they are, and communicate to the world who they are, itβs just common sense.β
Transition-related regret is considerably lower than that which follows having children, abortions and even knee surgery β despite what some right-wing pundits would have you believe.
This not just a women's issue. Every American should be concerned about republican continued dominance in Congress. They are targeting our freedoms. They already are constantly looking for ways limit our votes.
I would like to be a practicing witch, but no tradition of which I've heard rings true for me. But this may be because I have only heard of things as echoes down hallways.
(Sharing a brain with someone consumed by the mathematical tradition hasn't helped. We are agreed on many things, but ways of seeking and practicing have not been among them.)
I wish foremost to be able to calm or to empower others, and to disrupt dark ruminations, through ritual, symbols, and goods. Though I expect that learning from a teacher would be best, I seek sources from which to learn, if anyone knows of any.
I wonder, whether to find the teacher surprising, or the most appropriate possible. The tension in her self-aware irony is also both very challenging and potentially helpful.
This is certainly a very helpful guide, however: not just one tradition, but the seeds for a garden of wildflowers. Thank you.
as far as i know its vi's only video on this topic, everything else tended to be some lighthearted essays on mathematical curiosities so far.
and quite often the videos bring something surprising with them nobody expected from what videos vi published before. only thing that seems consistent to me is the lightheartedness, the messy scribbles on a college block and the inevitable chopping of pages so bits can be freely moved around.
We never watched her videos consistently, but we do know of Vi Hart, of old. It was surprising to hear her speak of such things. Not entirely surprising, for exactly the reasons you say, but it is something to marvel. π
I cannot say for certain that Nellie and I are wholly reconciled, on our views of the world. She is certainly a materialist, and prefers methods of the sort that she would call 'engineering'. But she also concedes the limits in scope and the existence of mysteries, among which are our own existence. And, even in her own discipline, she has come to recognise the wisdom of a multiplicity of interpretations of signs.
And for my part, I do not seek to escape from the world that is. I seek ways to navigate it, yet unexplored by us here, with more joy and resolve for us and ours, by learning tried ways to weave meaning from its threads.
The 4th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals ruled Monday that transgender people are a protected class and that Medicaid bans on trans care are unconstitutional.
There were so many things that happened yesterday in the Supreme Courtβs hearing on presidential immunity that itβs hard to know where to start. But one part that captured it for me was Sam Alitoβs line of argument that presidential immunity might be necessary to make it possible for presidents to leave office voluntarily, or that not having some broad grant of immunity would make refusal to leave office more likely.
A team of forensic accountants needs to go over DJT's entire term. We already know he took $8.5M in foreign emoluments despite acknowledging he wasn't supposed to and 'stepping down' as the head ot the Trump Organization.
He misappropriated classified documents and openly admitted he'd taken them.
He instigated an insurrectionist riot.
Even while under financial monitoring and on trial for fraud, there are indications he was committing even more fraud. This is why Judge Engoron's ruling not only extends the duration of that monitoring, but adds a compliance director to ensure all subsidiaries of the Trump Organization are adhering to GAAP.
Three types of misinformation are being used against transgender people: oversimplifying scientific knowledge, fabricating and misinterpreting research and promoting false equivalences
Authored by former Trump officials and dozens of right-wing organizations including the Heritage Foundation, nearly every page of Project 2025 details policies that would impact LGBTQ+ people β and thereβs a particular focus on transgender people. On the very first page of the manifesto, Heritage Foundation President Kevin Roberts laments the βcorruptionβ of the country βunder the ruling and cultural eliteβ whose children βsuffer the toxic normalization of transgenderism with drag queens and pornography invading their school libraries.β
The reality unfolding in Florida today is just a microcosm of what the United States could look like if Donald Trump were to be elected president this...
I dreamed last night that someone asked me for my email address, and I took a business card and wrote it on the back, and was reeeaaaallly struggling to get the letters legible, and told the person well you see I'm asleep and dreaming and we struggle with text in dreams because that part of our brains isn't very active, and the person nodded and said I've noticed the same thing, and never dream about writing. I said yeah, I'm such a text based person I dream about it anyway but poorly.
Why isn't your dream email address already on your dream business cards? Sounds like you need to dream order some new ones with the correct dream info on them.
@arth and why was I writing my address with a fountain pen that bled horribly? I have the shortest first+last name of any person I have ever met and still could not fit my name on the business card without it bleeding everywhere. (Btw answer is this was my personal not business email, that I was adding.)
This reminds me of the time quite a while back when I bumped into someone I knew when me and the wife were out for breakfast one morning. He asked for my phone number and I said that I didn't have anything on me to write it with, so he whipped out a blank business card with fancy swirly embossing around the edges and an expensive looking fountain pen. I was like "What's this?" and he said "I don't have cards made. I write them by hand each time." I kind of rolled my eyes and was thinking to myself "Of course you do. You're exactly that kind of guy." So I wrote my name and phone number on the card, but not without smearing it everywhere and getting bright blue ink all over my hands and even some on the table.
He never did call me, which is too bad because he had some interesting work he wanted me to do. I should have asked him to write his info for me on one of those fancy cards with his fancy pen.
I routinely dream about trying to send someone a text from my phone and being unable to do it. So often, in fact, that the most recent time I realized that I must be asleep so I closed my eyes in the dream and could hear my wife snoring, and then I opened my eyes back into the dream, said to myself βyes Iβm asleepβ, put away my phone, and continued my dream business.
@vonslatt that was the part of this I liked so much, that I seemed to know what was happening but continued to have a conversation with someone that I knew was imaginary
Speaking of DNA and timelines - After the N America Eclipse it lead me to rewatch the wonderful series Heroes. To which you Mr Takei play a vital role. I imagine it must have been a boost to be able to speak Japanese in an American high budget series?
like a sleeper agent, I cringe at that phrase. My Cell Biology prof in college would give an automatic F to any test that mentioned βpowerhouse of the cellβ
A St. Louis judge has ruled that Missouri Attorney General Andrew Bailey is entitled to Planned Parenthoodβs transgender care records, ordering the nonprofit to turn over some of its most sensitive files to the man who has built his unelected political career on restricting health care access for trans people.
I'll post some, ahem, cutting humor in regards to the real killer's passing in a minuteβbut first... TRIGGER WARNING: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
In Memory of Nicole Brown Simpson β Evergreen Review
Nicole Simpson went to many experts on domestic violence for help but none of them stopped him. Thatβs what it takes: the batterer has to be stopped. He will not stop himself. He has to be imprisoned, or killed, or she has to escape and hide, sometimes for the rest of her life, sometimes until he finds another woman to βlove.β There is no proof that counseling the batterer stops him.
I stopped at the gas station this morning and one of the clerks (who knew I was trans and had had top surgery) revealed that she was going to get her boobs done.
And she asked me who my surgeon was, so she could go there too.
I'm pretty sure that that's what victory sounds like.
Mine was Don Revis, Jr. of South Florida Plastic Surgery Associates. He's phenomenal, specializes in big damn tiddies, and is great with transfems.
Realself is a great place to look--but almost all of the best top surgeons are in LA or south FL.
I tested with breast forms and rice sizers, but ultimately you need to follow your heart. That last bit was incredibly tough for me, because I was afraid big time of job impacts. None have come--to paraphrase CJ, I'm already a trans--
@StormyDragon --woman. The tits hardly enter into it as career impacts go, regardless of size. And besides, they legally can't say a thing, because it'd be sexual harassment.
If your heart calls out to get giant boobs, and you can manage the financial and practical part of it, I honestly say go for it, and as big as you dream. Nobody's gonna hate you for your tits who didn't already hate you for being trans.
I find myself wishing people CWβd transphobic news. Lots of folks are on fedi specifically to escape the constant transphobic drone of mainstream socials and news. The fact that news is significant just offers more reason to CW it. Not all of us can or want to be politically engaged.
"Itβs so clear that he has never had a real position on abortion, the whole Roe v. Wade thing was just a bone he threw to the yapping fundamentalists, he has to squint to get the names of the Supreme Court justices right even to thank them."
Please give me a moment while I reach around and pat myself on the back, because I just finished watching the video of Trumpβs abortion announcement on Truth Social, so you donβt have to. In a word, it was excruciating.
"In the end, the whole thing is a hostage video made by a desperate man: save me, just get out there and vote for me, vote for Donald Trump, me me me me, just please vote for me and keep me out of jail, and weβll talk about some new horrible demand like banning rubbers and sex toys that you Christians blackmail me to support later. β¦
We need a record of his madness, because itβs getting worse, veering off into grandiose mega-lies like baby executionsβ¦."
NYT fact checks what has come out of Trump's mouth on the campaign trail: distortion and outright lies
#NSS Unlocked gift article - because this is important.
Since the beginning of his political career, Donald J. Trump has misled, mischaracterized, dissembled, exaggerated and, at times, flatly lied. His flawed statements about the border, the economy, the coronavirus pandemic and the 2020 election have formed the bedrock of his 2024 campaign. Though his penchant for bending, and often breaking, the truth has been well documented, a close study of how he does so reveals a kind of technique to his dishonesty: a set of recurring rhetorical moves with which Mr. Trump fuels his popularity among his supporters.
The New York Times reports that Trump is planning to βbuild huge camps to detain people,β and βto get around any refusal by Congress to appropriate the necessary funds, Mr. Trump would redirect money in the military budget.β How many people? βMillionsβ writes the Times. And not just immigrants: Trump is planning to send his enemies to them, too.
Idaho Republican Gov. Brad Little signed a bill into law prohibiting Medicaid and state employee health plans from covering the cost of gender-affirming medications and procedures for low-income transgender adults and minors.
Janel Diaz - "It should not matter to you how I dress, what I choose to wear, how I choose to express myself. It should not make you angry how I'm living my life," Diaz says. "That's what makes me want to fight so much more for the cause, for my organization Capital Tea being here in the Bible Belt."
In Florida, Capital Tea sets out to protect trans rights : NPR
The Texas Court of Appeals, Third District, today upheld injunctions in two related cases against the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services (DFPS) and former Commissioner Jaime Masters, barring them from implementing the agencyβs rule expanding the definition of child abuse to presumptively treat the provision of gender-affirming care as child abuse.
AUSTIN, Texas β Today the Texas Court of Appeals upheld two injunctions against the Texas DFPS and former Commissioner Jaime Masters, barring them from implementing the agencyβs rule expanding the
I made my first announcement to my closest friends that I was #trans. It was on a social media site known as LiveJournal, which many of you have likely never heard of. I migrated off of that site years ago. You can see that post now on my blog at https://janetannelogan.wordpress.com/2009/03/13/announcement/ . It's no longer locked.
Barbara and I had discussed me making that post in advance, and she was supportive. This was my first attempt at transition. Then in August of 2009, she went back into the hospital, and I detransitioned to be able to care for her. Back then, we feared I wouldn't be able to be with her as Janet. After she passed in 2010, I grieved for a long time. Then I restarted transition and have lived as Janet since.
That's one I'm not familiar with. Are you also familiar with InsaneJournal? I mirrored LiveJournal over there after the Russian take-over of LiveJournal.
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Sadly, that doesn't explain Republican women. Expand it to patriarchy? Then it starts to fit.
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in reply to Janet Logan (Friendica) • • •It's co-dependency, like the mother telling her kids 'not to bother your father, he's had a long day' when he's drunk and prone to beating them and her.
It's one of the things that drives me nuts about the Democrats: the endless Scoot-to-the-Reich. We're in the endgame, now, with the choice between a nominal democracy and an authoritarian state obsessed with women's yayas, pronouns, and immigrants.