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Pride and Prejudice - by Doc Impossible

When your whole world screams at you, from the day you’re born, that you’re bad, you’re wrong, and that you should be ashamed of yourself… well, it’s hard to not believe that. The omnipresence of a belief based on social stigma makes it almost impossible to avoid picking up at least some of it. This is called self-stigma, and self-stigma is the mother-category of all sorts of really awful things, from internalized racism to internalized transphobia to any number of self-reinforcing self-hating beliefs. And self-stigma is bad. Really bad.


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I often see this with women, a flinch response and an automatic apology.

Me: "Can I have an extra napkin?"
Waitress: "Yes, sorry."
Me: "You didn't do anything wrong."

(This actually happened. A restaurant where my wife and I were regulars was training a new server, and the young woman would flinch and apologize for everything. I kept telling her to stop apologizing.)